There is something that has been bothering me for some time.
Every now and then (like once a day) I’ll realize that I’ve been interacting with Cameron for some time and haven’t looked at him once. Some days it’s from the time we get up until we’re getting coats on to head out the door. Some times it’s even when we’re playing in the living room!
So when I realize this I make an effort to make eye contact and actually connect with him. I’ll get down to his level, and talk to him.
But he won’t look at me. He’ll look off to one side, then if I move into his line of sight, off to the other. Today we played vision ping-pong.
We’re slowly becoming a family that doesn’t look at each other. Which disturbs me. Am I freaking out? Over-analyzing? Being too self-critical? I’m concerned because looking at someone is a good way to convey to them that they are important to you. Making eye contact while talking improves communication.
I find it hard to focus on someone when they’re talking. It’s part of who I am – my attention flips from here to there and back again and around, up, down. Other times, like mornings, I’m just focused on getting us moving, dressed, fed, brushed, and out the door. The “Mommy I want …” requests often come at the worst times, and I absently oblige while doing whatever it was I was already doing.
Am I teaching Cameron that he isn’t important?
And why oh why do I have trouble making eye contact with him when we talk? Why is this something I have to make an effort to do? Is this normal?