Dear other parents at daycare,
I received some very upsetting news today. I would like to address some issues that have come up.
First, the daycare’s policy has been explicitly stated as it’s alright to bring in a child with a fever. Coughs are okay. I was told that the only problem was if the child was vomiting.
A few weeks ago Cameron had an awful cold and fever. I took Cameron to the doctor. He took a swab, and recommended I keep Cameron home as long as the fever persisted. I did. When the fever had gone away I took him back to daycare. The first day back the daycare provider told me that Cameron was very, very ill. She had my email and I had given her my work phone number but she did not contact me there. I immediately returned to the walk-in clinic, where we saw another doctor. This doctor checked the swab results – negative. She examined him. He had a cold, she said. No reason to keep him home.
Now, I would like to point out that I’m on probation at work as it is a new position. I would like to point out that I get FOUR sick days to look after ill family. At that point I would have required a note from the doctor to stay home with Cameron … but she said there was no reason to keep him home.
He had a few more difficult days, where he developed a fever in the middle of the day. I can’t always drop everything and run simply because my child has a fever. I’m sorry, but I do not consider that to be an emergency. I felt awful that he was suffering. I felt badly that the daycare provider had a difficult time dealing with him. Under ideal circumstances I agree, I should have kept him home.
I would also like to point out that the daycare provider’s son was ill before Cameron was. Very ill. I didn’t see any of you threatening to keep your children home because Ethan was sick. I don’t see any of you blaming the daycare provider for your children’s illnesses.
And yet I find out that I am being blamed for your children catching milder versions of Cameron’s cold. I know that one girl’s parents kept her out of daycare for three days, but that was before I returned with Cameron, after I had appropriately kept him home.
So now I kept Cameron home today. You might not have heard the complete story, so let me explain what happened.
On Wednesday night Cameron had a huge scare. He woke while I was doing laundry and had roughly three minutes of believing his Mommy had left him. He had a very rough night after that. In the morning he was fine, cheerful, energetic. We got off the bus to transfer, and he vomited. I took him home. He didn’t throw up again. He had no diarrhea. He had no fever. He ate and drank with good appetite. He was energetic and in a wonderful mood – better than most weekends! A child with a contagious stomach flu does not do this.
I could have been irresponsible, as it seems some are accusing me of being, and simply cleaned him up, dropped him off, and nobody would have known. But I did not, of course. I have also called the province’s new 811 service. They confirmed – a single episode of vomiting with no other symptoms is no reason to keep a child out of daycare. You’re welcome to call them as well to set your own mind at ease.
The upsetting news was that, essentially, some of you think I am not honest. Some of you apparently think that I am a poor parent. Some of you are demanding that the daycare not allow Cameron to return tomorrow. I am told that Cameron may, but that he will be kept in isolation, only the daycare provider’s son will be allowed to play with him. I know Cameron. He’s going to scream his little heart out.
I understand that you are concerned, that you do not wish your children to get sick. I understand that this week especially, with Christmas trips coming up, you wish to avoid illness. However, you cannot expect me to miss a day of work and keep a perfectly healthy child home.
In the future, if you have a problem with me, please speak with me directly. You all see me when we pick up our children. To smile and say Cameron’s doing great, how are you doing, let’s walk to the bus together while you’re complaining to the daycare behind my back is a negative pattern to get into. Let’s be direct and honest.
No – I haven’t sent and will not send this to the other parents. Much as I want to. If I have a chance I will ask them to speak with me directly if they have any questions about Cameron’s health, and I will do the same for them. I’m looking for another daycare for him.