Some of the sound bytes coming out of Cameron’s mouth have been less than cute lately. Tonight at supper he told me that he would hit me, and I would break into pieces, and then he would laugh. He runs around shaking things at me and the cat, saying, “I’m banging you! BANG, BANG, BANG, BANG!” And last night there was, “I’ll kill you!”
Tonight I finally asked him who says these things. “Ethan says them,” Cameron told me, then stated something else he’s said frequently: “Ethan hates me.”
Ethan is the oldest kid in daycare full-time, only his sister Caitlyn is older, and she’s in school. They are the daycare provider’s children. In the past I’ve run into troubles with Ethan’s behaviour, or rather his mother’s inability to deal with it. When Cameron was waking up screaming at night that Ethan was hitting him for days in a row, and crying that he didn’t want to go to daycare, I asked the assistant at the daycare if anything was happening. She confirmed that yes, Ethan had been hitting and pushing Cameron and indicated that I should not talk with Lori about it, that she was dealing with the problem. Lori, however, denied it when I asked her as non-confrontationally as I could, and acted as though I had offended her. Alright, I get it, she isn’t the most secure person and has some troubles dealing with confrontation. I also understand that I’m no supermom, and that people in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones.
I think I could deal with this a little bit better if my child hadn’t had D O G written on his forehead in bright red marker when I picked him up yesterday. Caitlyn apparently thought it would be funny. Her mother seemed annoyed, and had tried to wash it off, but the letters were still obvious.
I’m trying to not over react to the problems at the daycare. In all it is a good one. I’m trying to not let this spin out of control and land me frantically trying to find somewhere else.
I know that at any daycare Cameron will probably find bullies. He will find them his whole life. It is part of human nature, sad though it is. Ethan isn’t a bad kid, he is probably only reciting what his sister has said to him. She is probably just reacting to pressures to fit in at school, perhaps is being picked on there and is retaliating on her brother. I wish that their mother was dealing with this more effectively, or at least enough that it didn’t overflow to include my son, but there is really nothing I can say or do. My job though is to teach Cameron to deal with bullies, and teach him that their behaviour is not okay, and is not to be copied. To teach him that their words and opinions have no bearings on who he really is, that they don’t get to dictate his self esteem.
In the meantime, it’s hard to drop him off at a daycare knowing that one of his ‘friends’ is saying such horrible things to him on a daily basis.