I bit the bullet and had the talk with Lori today after Cameron had bounced off to the playroom. It’s easier to chat on drop-off, as pick-up is usually chaotic and noisy.
As expected, it got me nowhere. It’s Cameron’s fault, he cries when they tease him and that makes it worse. All the kids say mean things to each other. They don’t really know what they’re saying. I loved how she says that she puts them in time out for being mean – even Ethan. Then she added that she can’t put them in time out for saying bad things because they scream and it draws attention to the bad things they said and makes the other kids say them too.
Yes, I do agree that kids are going to experiment with saying nasty things. They want to see what reaction they get. Yes, Cameron is a sensitive kid, and he doesn’t understand why he gets a time out at home for saying some things but other kids are allowed to say those things to him – and yes he’ll have to deal with this. Yes, some of the responsibility is on me and Cameron, for Cameron to learn how to deal with being teased.
But some of it is on the daycare provider to step in and teach her own kid how to behave.